Day 10
I forgot to include the response I got to my polite rejection from separated guy with kids:
Me: Hi--Thanks for your message. You sound nice, but not quite who I'm looking for. Lots of luck in your search!
Him: i'm not actually looking for anything other than someone to wordplay with. happy j dating.
Um, so why are you on a dating site?
Anyway. In an email, B. asks what's happened to my profile? I assume the "suspended membership" situation has not been resolved, since apparently my profile doesn't show up on the site, so I call customer service and the representative can't do anything to help me. Somehow, as both he and I are navigating in the depths of my profile, the problem resolves itself, so let the JDating begin again.
Need some advice regarding my date Saturday with B.: we're going to see a band that's playing within walking distance of my house. I was thinking of suggesting to him that he meet me at my place and park and we walk over together. This way, we're guaranteed to recognize each other, the complicated Saturday night parking situation is resolved, and we get a few minutes to chat in quiet before the show starts. On the down side, a complete stranger will know where I live. Thoughts?
posted by Amy at 6:48 PM
2 Comments:
I suggest not suggesting the parking thing. Unless he brings it up, I just wouldn't offer. Here's why: Because you haven't met the guy yet, so he still is, in essence a stranger. And I've had jdates before where the pre-date stuff goes great (great emails, great phone calls)... And because of that, once or twice I almost did the "meet at my house" thing. But thank god I didn't. Because when we actually met in person, sparks didn't fly. And it was so much easier to get out of there early since I had my own way of getting home, and he had his. Since then, I just remind myself not to get "too comfortable" until I meet them. That's my opinion, girl to girl.
--Emma--
7:42 PM
Agreed. He doesn't get your home address, home phone number, or last name until after you've met him in person and he's passed your "spidy sense" test. It may sound paranoid, but your safety is way more important than his convenience. Just plan on meeting somewhere very specific (in front of the ticket booth or the venue's sign or something), and tell him what you'll be wearing.
11:45 AM
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