Day 6

I really appreicate Dori's excellent observation that girls are somewhat in control of the pace of the exchange of personal information, since we've got to be more careful. I recommend her blog, her personal experiences, and her insights on dating. Thanks Dori!

So this morning, I offer B. my personal email address in my reply to his message.

Flirts received from the following, to which I replied:
Funny Guy. We "clicked" each other. I thought his profile was extremely funny, and though I'm not entirely sure about his pictures, I like his sense of humor. He wrote an excellent introductory email--should be the gold standard for all men on JDate. Maybe he could offer a seminar or a webinar or an instructional video.

Martial Arts Guy. Again, we "clicked" each other. His profile was funny, and his pictures were cute. I like men with martial arts experience.

Email from:
Random Guy. He emailed me. I have not seen him before, so he didn't come up in my searches. Seems like a nice guy, but a lot of his email was directly cut-and-pasted from his profile. Hmmm. And, he has several pictures, and each one looks so different from the other. 4 pictures, 4 totally different haircuts and 4 different looks. I don't know which one is the most accurate. Plus, he lives a little far for my tastes--about 60 miles. I hold off on replying to him.

I see Fitness Guy is online, so I IM him, partially to avoid emailing him directly. We chat just for a few minutes. The IM program through JDate is very slow, so we agree to send each other emails.

Just as I'm ready to log off, B. sends me an IM. I'm excited to hear from him, since I've been waiting all day to see if he would contact me at my personal email address. We chat for a while, and here's what transpires:
[me]: I think this IM program is pretty slow--it's not too conducive for chatting!
[B.]: yes, this must be it. Nothing to do with the fact that i'm multitasking
[me]: (thinking, multitasking? What are you doing, IM'ing multiple women at the same time?) I understand multitasking. I have a few windows open myself...
[B.]: trying to look up when exactly does [cool band] come to [your town]
[me]: I believe you said next Saturday?
[B.]: feel like coming to their show?
[me]: Definitely!

Eeee, a question, the best kind! A request for a date! We chat for a long time. Things look good from here!

It occurrs to me that the things he was saying to me in previous emails could have been oblique invitations, but who knows. It's hard to read subtleties with email.

I'm behind with my "cheat sheets" with all the potential JDates. I'm finding it's harder to remember what I've told whom, not what they've told me! How do I keep track of where I am with my stories?

I have spent a lot of time this weekend thinking about, worrying about, and surfing JDate. One of my original concerns (see the rules, Day 0) was that I'd get all obsessed with it, and I think I'm dangerously close to violating that rule. I need to learn how to manage my time better!