Thoughts on my mind

I don't want to rush into a serious relationship, but I'd like to, in general, head in a monogamous relationship direction
I don't want to spend all my time with him, even though I want to see him frequently
I need to maintain my own life--all the things I need and like to do I need to keep doing and not have my life revolve around dates
I want to be able to have a date/an activity partner, as JDate calls it, and keep that in perspective
I don't want to make the same mistakes I've made in the past
I don't want to assume or expect too much
I don't want to spend all my time thinking about it
I don't want to get hurt
I hope this phase--the fun, exciting, getting-to-know-you and enjoying-the-developing-attraction phase--lasts a long time
I want to be able to balance dating with everything else in my life